Dear person I just met/ random on the street/ long term friend/ relative I see once a year/ girl at the checkout,
It is OK.
I see the trepiation in your eyes.
I was on your side once. Not knowing what to say. What to do.
Not wanting to offend.
Yes, my boy is big isn’t he?
He is LOUD!
OMG you should hear him in the middle of the night! Or when he is singing in the toilet.
Kid has no off button, let alone a volume control.
No, it doesn’t hurt when he slaps himself like that.
It means he is happy. Excited even.
I don’t get it either and we did try for a while to stop him doing it, but like a dog wagging its tail it is primal.
And part of him.
We don’t understand it, but does that make it wrong?
Yes, he is a bit unpredicatable.
But just because I pull him away from you doesn’t mean he will hurt you.
He just doesn’t have any sense of personal space, I am doing it for your comfort.
Not your safety.
Please understand that it is OK to be a little concerned.
Fuck, he frightens me sometimes but he is so gentle it is heartbreaking.
When he strokes my cheek when he sees I am sad.
The gentle hug as he rests his head on my shoulder.
The way he interacts with his 8 month old cousin. Not a dry eye in the house I can assure you.
He is the definition of a gentle giant.
Just give him a chance and he will change your life. For the better.
He is genuine.
He is kind.
He is loving and hilarious.
He is big and unpredicatable.
He flaps his arms and makes weird arsed noises and has no qualms about getting in your face to talk about things that only he finds interesting.
He farts A LOT.
And they stink.
But he will say excuse me.
Cause he has him some manners thankyouverymuch.
It is OK to tell him to fart outside.
It is OK to tell him to stand back or please stop talking about Teletubbies or his latest movie he is making.
It is OK to look at me with pleading eyes because you don’t know what to do.
It is OK.
I have been you. Not knowing what to do. Not knowing what to say.
It is OK.
I will teach you.
Boo will teach you.
Just acknowledge him. That is all I ask.
The rest is OK.