You stand before me.
Trying to make conversation. But it is the same questions and same answers as always.
But you look deep into my eyes. Like you always have.
Hey Mummy.
Yes, my beautiful?
What weapon will your Ranger have?
I sit on the couch, you sit beside me with your head on my lap.
I cup your face in my hands and my heart swells with love as you look up at me.
Deep into my eyes. Like you always have.
Hey Mummy?
Yes, Boo?
What is your favourite scene in my movie?
Same questions. Same answers.
Some days it is tiring. Some days I just wish that you would talk about something else.
But you look deep into my eyes as you talk, it is not the words it is the connection.
The desperate need for connection, conversation, interaction.
The very things that those experts said don’t wish for.
Well fuck you experts, my Rangers weapon is a Phoenix Bazooka and it will blow you away.
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Simply beautiful
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Beautiful post x
Holly Homemaker´s last blog ..Top 10 Careers Id Like To Try For A Week
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It is stories like yours that make me realise that the so-called experts really don’t know what they are talking about when it comes to autism.
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ahh experts.
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Experts suck.
Mums know better.
The end.
Ro´s last blog ..Those inner diaries and hidden schedules
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Can’t wait to re-connect tonight (although I’m not looking forward to always getting the answers wrong!).
Love you
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You are the expert Kells, not those people with a degree. All that shows is they know how to retain information.
You live in a world they will never fully understand.
Nikki aka Widdle Shamrock´s last blog ..Day One
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What Ro said.
WarsawMommy´s last blog ..Linking Up-
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I get this with my Aspies girl-child. Same thing over and over. Confirmation of the same things. Then I realise she needs my confirmations – it makes her feel safe. Besides, its what SHE wants to talk about, its what she can communicate about.
Gilz´s last blog ..Octopus Prediction – 2010 Fifa Soccer World Cup
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Awwww.
Chookie´s last blog ..A Walk in the Back Yard
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Boo rocks, hands down
Laura´s last blog ..You guys- I think I’ve lost my baking mojo
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Last time I tried to leave a comment, your blog went down. I hope it wasn’t my fault. All I said was “Dammit, now I have something in my eye… Sniffle.”
Also, what Ro said. And Laura.
Kate @ UpsideBackwards´s last blog ..B is for digger
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It’s code, methinks. Your subconscious and his, communicating.
Nan´s last blog ..Update- Nothing Exciting at ALL is Happening
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Awww, so precious.
Deeleea´s last blog ..To Those Who Read via FEED
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Oh .. that definitely blew me away….
Dammit – there’s something in my eye….
Amanda´s last blog ..Dear Darl- it’s July 8
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You don’t need a Phoenix Bazooka to blow me away. You and Boo are awesome.
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I like the Mermaid-Zooka, myself.
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It seems to me that in this case, it’s the parents who’ve done almost all of it. Found a way to let their kids defy the expectations.
I met a woman, here in Ireland where you have to take the govt to court to get care and education etc for your autistic child, she’d been through all that.
But first of all, when her two year old suddenly stopped making eye contact with her, and all the other things that come with autism, she went to the specialist, the most expert expert in Dublin. And he said, you have two healthy children, Mrs Firtzgerald. This one will never talk, or interact with you. You have two healthy girls, Mrs Fitzgerald, go home and parent them.
She prefaced all this by showing us pictures of her beautiful, healthy, smiling, five year old sliding down a slide. She’d given up her job, and converted her garage to a class room, and paid for special school an hour and a half away and so on, but she’d proved the expert wrong…
Jo´s last blog ..necessity and the mother of invention
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Good on you. He’s a lucky boy.
Frogdancer´s last blog ..A Holiday moment
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BWAHAHA! Look at you and Boo with your bad selfs! Good for you, Kelley!
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:: tears up ::
Marita´s last blog ..Homeschool Friday – Seatbelts and School Zones
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I’ve run into those experts as well, and what I’ve found is; because a parent is emotionally invested, they do more research, look for answers and not reasons, and they put the effort of hope in EVERY DAY.
Yes, fuck the experts; those who only tell you what you can’t accomplish, rather than congratulate you on what you have.
Jessica´s last blog ..Hello Kingston
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I love, love, LOVE this post. Truly. Madly. Savage Garden-ly Deeply!
Mad Woman´s last blog ..The importance of remembering
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That’s been the bane of my existence. The constant repetitive conversations. It’s slowly starting to get better. I don’t know that it’ll ever be all gone. But it’s something I’m learning to embrace as just one of those quirky things about my son.
And like you said, that connection is there.
statia´s last blog ..Retail Therapy
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with every fiber of my being … YES. i know this. i live this. every day. YES.
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And that is the magic that helps us keep going on.
Kristine (Mommy Needs Therapy)´s last blog ..Post Incident Analyzation
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